Carlsbad Real Estate News and Views: It’s OK to Say This House is Not the Right One and You Should!

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It’s OK to Say This House is Not the Right One and You Should!

It’s OK to Say This House is Not the Right One,

and You Should!

 

 

House hunting is a pretty emotional process, with lots of excitement and anticipation once you find homes you are interested in seeing, especially when you are first starting on your search. There can be lots of ups and downs in your emotions, especially when excitement about a certain home turns to immediate disappointment when you walk in the door, or when you are pleasantly surprised at what you find.

 

 

Hopefully, you are embarking on your house search with your pre-approval in hand, and with a pretty good idea of what you need, and want – it’s probably best to focus on your needs before your wants since that list is probably shorter, and for many buyers needs may be more important than the wish list.



Making the right decision when buying a homeKnowing what you really need will help you stay grounded and avoid making a decision based purely on your emotions, or missing a home that meets your needs but doesn’t get you excited because the wow factor isn’t there or your wish list is left wanting.

 

 

You may also have a mental list of issues that would rule out a house for you - your “deal killers” that would have you walk away from a house even if you like it. Issues like road noise, fronting on a busy road, or a home that’s been smoked in might be on that list for you.

 

 

I saw this the other day with buyers who liked many aspects of a home, but they had to admit the pretty significant road noise “is a deal killer for us.” Only you know what will be an issue you can’t overcome, no matter how much the house tugs at the heartstrings, and it can be an emotional struggle.

 

 

It’s OK to say a house is not the right one because it does not meet the requirements. In fact, you need to be honest with yourself…and your agent, when this happens and not keep trying to make something work when deep down you know it doesn’t. That may mean looking some more, or further evaluating your list to make sure you really are focused on what is most important.

 

 

There is no perfect house, and lots can be done to make a house your own, but when it doesn’t feel right you need to listen to that little voice, and your emotions.

 

 

But of course you should also be prepared to say “this is it” when you know you have found the right house, the emotions kick in, and you are ready to move ahead and make an offer.

 

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Comment balloon 28 commentsJeff Dowler, CRS • October 23 2017 05:42AM

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Yes, buyers definitely need to know when a house is it, and when it is not. Good point!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) about 2 years ago

Good morning Jeff.

Better to walk away than to have buyers remorse.  Good call, thanks for sharing

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) about 2 years ago

Having a good and relaistic list for a price point is what every buyer needs to have ! 

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) about 2 years ago

And it saves you and your Realtor's time too. We showed a condo to a buyer the other day who took too much time in the unit. Then she wanted to see the clubhouse and wasted time there too. Turns out she didn't like the condo at all, but said she didn't want to disappoint the homeowner!

Posted by Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400, Long Island Home and Condo Specialists (The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803) about 2 years ago

Absolutely, Jeff.  I always remind my clients that I won't be disappointed if they don't like a home.  I am here for them.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) about 2 years ago

The "this is it" moment as you say remains illusive until it appears. Be ready!

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) about 2 years ago

Good morning Jeff and congratulations on the feature. I agree with you. Knowing yourself is where it begins and ends.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) about 2 years ago

Moving forward with that nagging feeling is a recipe for buyer's remorse as James Dray said. And that is bad for everybody. While a buyer might never find perfection, they should feel confident that they've found the best.

Posted by Margaret Goss, Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate (Baird & Warner Real Estate) about 2 years ago

Know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away....always important.....I would remind buyers that the odors from smokers can be taken care of with an Ozonator so that's one issue that shouldn't stop buyers

Posted by Michael Eisenberg, Bellingham Real Estate Guy (eXp Realty) about 2 years ago

This is great advice in any area of life. If it doesn't feel right, don't keep going! Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Corey Martin, Real Estate and Management Solutions (Martin Presence Group) about 2 years ago

Hi Jeff - That is excellent advice for buyers looking for the right place to call home. We all hate it when a buyer settles for a home that doesn't meet their needs - keeping the search going is the best move.

Posted by Dick Greenberg, Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate (New Paradigm Partners LLC) about 2 years ago

And to be honest with themselves about it Kat Palmiotti . It's hard to be disappointed.

I so agree James Dray 

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) about 2 years ago

Jeff

Buying a home can be a very emotional process . . . . Thank you for sharing your insight on the process.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) about 2 years ago

To save time and narrow the search, buyers need to tell their agent WHY a house isn't "it."

I remember the frustration when I was an agent of having buyers who liked every house they saw - but still couldn't find one they wanted to buy. 

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) about 2 years ago

Hello Jeff -- yes, cool architectural features and a gorgeous view can sidetrack buyers to the point that they forget an attached garage is essential to them and square footage is much smaller than they wanted.

I asked a recent buyer if the gorgeous home would work when their baby was a 10 year old, since they want a house to last them for years. They decided not to jump into the multiple offer fray on that house and closed a few weeks ago on a house they love much better and fits their needs.

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) about 2 years ago

I love your feature today. Thanks for sharing such great advice. 

Posted by Mega Team Real Estate, San Francisco and Peninsula Real Estate Concierge (Realty ONE Group Alliance) about 2 years ago

I have no problem saying "it's not the one". Unfortunately, for my husband, this has become quite annoying. LOL

Posted by Sharon Tara, New Hampshire Home Stager (Sharon Tara Transformations) about 2 years ago

If it bothers you a little now, it will bother you a whole lot later!  Next! 

Posted by Jeanne Gregory, The most important home I sell is YOURS! (RE/MAX Southwest) about 2 years ago

HI Jeff Dowler - Congratulations on the well deserved feature!  Buyers should always critique each home for their agent so the agent can hone in on the right one for them. Nice job!

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) about 2 years ago

An excellent post Jeff Dowler .  It's simple advice, but so important for buyers to think about.  I think that many buyers have a harder time realizing a home is the right one.  The delay in their decision often causes them to lose it, and then they want to kick themselves.

Posted by Marie-Denise Kratsios, Where ever you are, that's where I'll be! (Daniel Gale Sotheby's International Realty) about 2 years ago

Encouraging feedback and asking the buyer to think about the future of living in the home tends to get their real feelings to come forth. Great post Jeff.

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Platinum Properties) about 2 years ago

You're exactly right, good post.  If they change their minds or need a way out, they can always just blame the home inspector - we're use to it 

Posted by Joshua Frederick, Home Inspector in Defiance & all of Northwest Ohio (Home Inspector for ASPEC Residential Services, LLC) about 2 years ago

Jeff, I far, far prefer a buyer to tell me this house isn't the one when they know it, versus spending another 1/2 hour (or more) in the home confirming why it's not right.  If it's not right, it's not right.  We're one "no" closer to "yes".

 

Posted by Liz and Bill Spear, RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com) about 2 years ago

Absolutely great advice!!!

Knowing what you really need will help you stay grounded and avoid making a decision based purely on your emotions, or missing a home that meets your needs but doesn’t get you excited because the wow factor isn’t there or your wish list is left wanting

Posted by Sham Reddy CRS, CRS (H E R Realty, Dayton, OH) about 2 years ago

So true Sally K. & David L. Hanson  but it's not always something they have. Being realistic can be a real challenge!

I have had buyers say the same thing Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 . I tell it's far better to move along than waste anyone's time. Sellers will understand (well, most will!).

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) about 2 years ago

I do the same Gabe Sanders . Even if we drive up and they are not interested.

Some know right away that "This is it" Richie Alan Naggar  while for others it's not quite that clear.

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) about 2 years ago

Great points!  A buyer can second guess a decision and over-think it, too.  

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) about 2 years ago

Jeff Dowler "...it’s probably best to focus on your needs before your wants since that list is probably shorter, and for many buyers needs may be more important than the wish list."

Right on target - and - re-blog!

Posted by Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers, Serving Scottsdale, Phoenix and Maricopa County AZ (Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty) about 2 years ago

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