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Bonding with Your New House – A Special Moment

You've Closed on Your New House

Now it's Time to Bond!



A special moment arrives for most buyers when you become the new owner. You might get a call from your agent that you are the new homeowner, or you might be sitting around the closing table signing documents when it finally happens. Depends on how things work in your area.



You’ve been anticipating this for a long time, with a wide range of emotions…not just weeks, but perhaps months, or longer.



animated heartsBut when it’s official you are the new owner, it’s a very special moment indeed. It might take a few minutes to get used to the idea…that the house you fell in love with, made an offer on, and stressed over for weeks during inspections, due diligence, the appraisal, and loan approval, is now really yours. And now you can move in.



Now it’s time to bond with your new house that will become your home – filled with memories, friends, and all that makes it special to you. It happens with each buyer in a different way, but that special moment when you walk in your front door as the new owner can be hard to put into words. It really IS yours!! And you’ve earned that special time



Do you walk through the house, planning what to put where?


Does it look and feel different now that it’s empty and YOU own it?


Do you bring a chair (as I have seen buyers do) and sit in the living room, or perhaps on the front or back porch?


Do you bring a bottle of wine or champagne to toast your new home?



I’ve know a number of buyers who started moving in that very day that closing occurred, and were able to sleep in their own beds. That’s some heavy-duty bonding.

Sometimes bonding can’t begin right away. You might have bought a second home and aren’t physically here when closing happens. Or perhaps you agreed on a rent back for the sellers after closing to help cinch the deal and will be acting as landlord til they move out.



Woman unpacking in her new homeThere’s a ton of work ahead moving into your new home, unpacking and finding places for everything (or perhaps getting rid of some things), learning your way around the community, getting accustomed to new sounds and a new routine. You might want to read What Should I Expect Now That I’ve Closed on My Home for some things to think about.



So take a few moments, however you wish, to bond a little with your new home. Yes, it’s a busy time but enjoy a few minutes to appreciate what you have just been through, and celebrate homeownership!


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Comment balloon 31 commentsJeff Dowler, CRS • October 27 2017 11:16PM


Jeff- I can remember when I would be looking at a home for us, I’d imagine us having breakfast there. Don’t ask me why. We all bond with our new home in different ways and at different times. It’s like starting a new adventure.

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) over 2 years ago

Good morning Jeff.

We are in fact half-hearted looking for a new one ourselves.  What I think about is all the manual labor in making that move.  I'm tired, so I think I'll take a nap and not worry about it right now....  :o)

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) over 2 years ago

Good morning Jeff. This is fun and factual too. I bond when I buy and after closing the work starts.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) over 2 years ago

Sometimes as REALTORS® we do so much of house selling that we may lose our empathy for those who are proud of what they accomplished We should never lose sight of this and we need to be with these folks even after the sale so that they never lose that lovin' feeling.

Posted by Joe Pryor, REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties (The Virtual Real Estate Team) over 2 years ago

Bonding with a new home is a great example of falling in love with the most expensive investment of your life. Many will say, "Pinch me, is it real?"  Those are very good thought-provoking questions too!

This is a great blog post!!!

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) over 2 years ago

It is part of the home buying process and good for you for recognizing it. I'm one who bonds the minute I intuit the right property. It's very viseral. The love just grows from that moment D 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) over 2 years ago

Jeff you are right it is a special experience.  Even though I experienced this many many moons ago, I still remember the feeling.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) over 2 years ago

Jeff, yes this is a special experience, some people experience it more than others. Like my parents were in their hom for 50 years.

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Vision Quest Realty) over 2 years ago

Oh, I love this post, Jeff! What great advice to buyers who don't often really think about this aspect of the 'move.' I sometimes hear some say that they're just going to move-in slowly so they can get a feel for how they will actually 'live' in the home, determining where their furniture will be placed. Me, I just move right in, then sit and savor! LOL


Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, The right Charlotte REALTOR! ( | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) over 2 years ago

I fell in the love with the back yard of our house first. I knew our kids would love having plenty of space to run around and play. What a great post you wrote, Jeff Dowler to remind all buyers to enjoy the moment!

Posted by Nina Rogoff, Sells Real Estate! (RE/MAX Executive Realty) over 2 years ago

There probably isn’t a more special moment than that first step into a new house you love! :)

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) over 2 years ago

Backyard anything is a good way to fall in love with the house of your dreams for a lot of people! :) Nina Hollander

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) over 2 years ago

I believe I bonded with the house I am in the first time I laid my eyes on it.  I could see the entertaining we could do in the home and my family growing up in it.  I had everything all planned out.  It has been enjoyable and lots of memories here, some good and some bad, but I still love this home.  I love seeing the joy in peoples faces when they find that perfect home and it is so exciting for them when they close and realize, they are home owners.  Great post!

Posted by Brenda J. Andrew, Professional Realtor in Corpus Christi, TX (ULTIMA REAL ESTATE) over 2 years ago

Laura Cerrano ~ hi Laura... no doubt about it and I can appreciate a nice back yard but don't personally need or want one.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Realty) over 2 years ago

New beginnings and a sigh of relief that the process has ended.

Posted by Janis Borgueta, LIC RE Salesperson (Key Properties of the Hudson Valley ) over 2 years ago

Good morning Jeff Dowler ,

It is a part of the process and good to recognize it and talk about it. Everyone bonds differently but it happens just in different ways!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) over 2 years ago

I see many emotions from buyers from smiles to tears of joy. SOme get excited when their offer is accept. Those that have bought before may wait until closing day to excited and scared at the same time

Posted by Scott Godzyk, One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents (Godzyk Real Estate Services) over 2 years ago

Great post, Jeff.  I love to visit buyers a month or so after the closing.  Usually, by then they have had to time to settle in. It is so gratifying to see and be a part of the beginning of "home sweet home".

Posted by Chris Lima, Local or Global-Allow me to open doors for you. (Atlantic Shores Realty Expertise) over 2 years ago

What a great post!  I hadn't thought about it, but, yes, there is a bonding period, and it makes me think of the first house we bought.  It was the first time we saw it vacant and we certainly had that "pinch me, is it real" feeling!

Posted by Francine Viola, REALTOR®, In Tune with your Real Estate Needs (Coldwell Banker Evergreen Olympic Realty, Olympia WA) over 2 years ago

The first "anything" is priceless even the moments to come & what they hold

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) over 2 years ago

It's a great feeling, knowing that one now has a place to belong and grow. Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Corey Martin, Real Estate and Management Solutions (Martin Presence Group) over 2 years ago

Jeff, you are so right. There is usually that moment where someone stops whatever they are doing and realize...and truly feel...this is MINE. A great moment!

Posted by Marney Kirk, Towson, Maryland Real Estate (Cummings & Co. Realtors) over 2 years ago

Hey Jeff! Good post. I have been gone for a while and was happy to see that you were still here.

Posted by Sussie Sutton, David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers (David Tracy Real Estate) over 2 years ago

We cherish those special moments!!!

It might take a few minutes to get used to the idea…that the house you fell in love with, made an offer on, and stressed over for weeks during inspections, due diligence, the appraisal, and loan approval, is now yours. 

Posted by Sham Reddy CRS, CRS (H E R Realty, Dayton, OH) over 2 years ago

Oh yes, this can be a special moment.  I've seen it many times, and it's a very cool thing to witness.  Of course when I'm there, they're thinking about how to decorate and make it their own home.

Posted by Debbie Gartner, The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers (The Flooring Girl) over 2 years ago

Bonding with a new home can be a wonderful experience!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) over 2 years ago

Great advice, priceless moment can be lost in time... No rush!! Celebrate! 

Posted by AndreaBFerreira CRS - SRS - CLHMS, Miami Dade, Broward and Palm Beach County in FL (Keyes Co. ) over 2 years ago

yes Jeff Dowler  time to fall in love all over again

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) over 2 years ago


New home buyers are really excited at the closing of their new home.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) over 2 years ago


Congratulations on a well deserved feature.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) over 2 years ago

Thanks for sharing on bonding with the new home.

Some people will bond faster than others.

First time home buyers may still need to guidance on next steps to get comfortable enough to bond.

A good professional agent will guide the process.

Posted by John Wiley, Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA over 2 years ago